Very elaborate and impressive. But I see that these are virtues all people should have-it doesn’t define manliness alone. It defines all virtues that a man or woman should aspire to have
Thank you. In general, you are right. We can all benefit from such qualities, but a man needs be defined by them, identity with them, not just have them. Also, the self-reliance quality cannot define a woman. A woman by nature is vulnerable during pregnancy, childbirth, and childcare. To be completely self-reliant would mean sacrificing her maternal inclinations. Surely, there’s a lot to be debated, expanded, and discovers on this. I’m glad you made this comment
I get your drift. One other point, I’d like to make-there is a maturity continuum- not my words, Stephen Covey’s. The virtues of independence and self-reliance belong to the second stage of maturity. Real leaders move to the third stage, inter-dependence, I.e. they are aware that the way to maximize achievement and be super-effective in life is through building win-win relationships, collaboration, equity and partnerships. I am sure you have implied these qualities in some of the virtues listed, but I thought it makes sense to call it out.
Yes, thank you for adding to the conversation. Insightful. This last part relates to my general philosophy of rational cooperation based on win-win intent, the only way to maximize utility for all parties involved
Yes, I was going to say the same. You beat me to it. So my only other niggle is the idea of the need for innocence in women. Innocence is a state of being for children, not adults, surely? If you are still wandering around in a state of innocence as an adult, I would personally find that rather worrying.
I'm saving this for my son and my students. A lot of my students were born out of wedlock and don't have positive male figures in their lives.
Very happy for you on your journey to manhood. Amazing article! 👏
Awesome! Thank you.
Very elaborate and impressive. But I see that these are virtues all people should have-it doesn’t define manliness alone. It defines all virtues that a man or woman should aspire to have
Thank you. In general, you are right. We can all benefit from such qualities, but a man needs be defined by them, identity with them, not just have them. Also, the self-reliance quality cannot define a woman. A woman by nature is vulnerable during pregnancy, childbirth, and childcare. To be completely self-reliant would mean sacrificing her maternal inclinations. Surely, there’s a lot to be debated, expanded, and discovers on this. I’m glad you made this comment
I get your drift. One other point, I’d like to make-there is a maturity continuum- not my words, Stephen Covey’s. The virtues of independence and self-reliance belong to the second stage of maturity. Real leaders move to the third stage, inter-dependence, I.e. they are aware that the way to maximize achievement and be super-effective in life is through building win-win relationships, collaboration, equity and partnerships. I am sure you have implied these qualities in some of the virtues listed, but I thought it makes sense to call it out.
Yes, thank you for adding to the conversation. Insightful. This last part relates to my general philosophy of rational cooperation based on win-win intent, the only way to maximize utility for all parties involved
Yes, I was going to say the same. You beat me to it. So my only other niggle is the idea of the need for innocence in women. Innocence is a state of being for children, not adults, surely? If you are still wandering around in a state of innocence as an adult, I would personally find that rather worrying.
How about instead of childish innocence we talk about healthy modesty (not shame) and her embrace of her vulnerability?
This is a gold mine! Well written
Thank you. Kindly share with anyone who'd gain value from it.
saving it for my son :)
Awesome!