Why the World Is F*cked Up

The lack of two fundamental virtues

I’ll say it right off the bat: the reason this world is f*cked up is the hopeless scarcity of two VITAL virtues that are prerequisites for civilised societies (no, humanity has not yet achieved civilisation; we’re just monkeys with iPhones). These two missing virtues are humility and its derivative, accountability.

That’s it. The article is finished. Bye.

Still here?

I might as well hold your attention captive for a bit longer, since we’re not a civil species, anyway.

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This world is messed up; no argument there. But why? It all boils down to the lack of humility in owning self-accountability for things we have complete agency over. And then, the polar opposite of that: We blame ourselves for things that we have no control over, nor responsibility for, things that shouldn’t be our burdens. Funny how this goes.

We reject accountability where we are responsible while we blame ourselves for things that aren’t our responsibility, let alone our fault. This is the ultimate mindf*ck. No wonder we’re f*cked up.

Sure, some people might hold themselves accountable some of the time, but they aren’t enough to make a difference in a world where unaccountability and needless self-blame are the norm.

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Our lack of accountability shows in the religions we make up to express our true inclinations, and those religions create a feedback loop, teaching more unaccountability to us in a self-sustained circle of psychopathy. Abrahamism, the sick, twisted notion that children must be treated as sacrificial lambs to cowardly, piece-of-shit parents and the voices in their heads, is the best example of this.

Our stupid religions teach us to blame ourselves for nonsense like “original sins” and our physical nature that was forced onto us, but then condition us to be completely unaccountable for things that are indeed our total responsibility: how we treat our children.

“Honour your father and your mother”? Really? Why? What if they are sick, sadistic, abusive assholes? How about “honour your children”? Children are innocent, helpless, and pure, and they never chose to be born, let alone be born to sick, twisted, unaccountable parents with inclinations to child-abuse cults centred around the demonic “spare the rod, spoil the child” nonsense. Seriously, f*ck Abrahamic religions and their traumatising hatred of children.

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Hell, the fact that we look to arbitrary, threat-based “authority” structures (the state) to solve our problems for us is the inevitable consequence of our lethal lack of accountability. But this is what the state is: our surrogate abusive parent, the one we look to in our conditioned Stockholm syndrome, the one we beg to abuse us and love them for it.

I can tell an unaccountable person from how he/she blames children for “misbehaving”, when it’s always the adults’ responsibility to manage their children’s wellbeing. The child isn’t responsible for misbehaving; the parent is, because the parent has more agency over the child than the child has over itself. Children cannot control their emotions, while their parents can control their emotions more than the children themselves. So, how is it that we lack the humility to hold ourselves accountable for children “misbehaving”, as if we do everything right as parents? This, this lack of humility to ponder whether you’re doing something wrong, and then blaming an innocent child instead… this is the most basic problem of humanity.

Imagine demanding more agency from helpless children than from yourself. This is where we’re at.

It all starts with parental accountability. Instead of expecting a helpless child to be responsible to you — you who can control your own emotions as well as theirs — how about you accept your undeniable responsibility to your child?

If human society humbly understood this fact, we’d have reached the stars by now.