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Pseudonymph's avatar

Well laid out and stated and powerful.

Much more so than previous engagements and will honestly be showing this to my fiancé.

I vividly remember when my mom stopped spanking me because I begged her to instead of timeouts she had been phasing in an never touched me again.

I never learned to fear hear but as you convincingly argue I also indeed never learned a dammed thing when spanking was “appropriate” and given how much (not much at all) influence she’s had on my worldview she’s had beyond judge on merit not authority (kinda unwittingly screwed herself there) I realize now the notion I was actually learning anything from spanking is preposterous whereas time outs did teach me to at least value time.

My thanks 🧡

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Sotiris Rex's avatar

I’m extremely happi this resonated with you. Positive parenting is the cure for almost every evil out there

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sram54's avatar

Couldn’t agree with you more. Children are precious gifts that you should nurture and cherish. The only right way to bring up children is by example and ensuring that you are respect worthy, someone the child will always look up to

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Sotiris Rex's avatar

This is 100% spot on

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Ben_H's avatar

Spanking is easy, quick and cheap (like junk food) no need to think, no need for a conversation. It might also be a cultural thing, you spank your child in public to show you are in charge. Hitting a child as punishment at home is just sick, but I guess it’s all legal (?) Just googled it now to make sure:... In England and Northern Ireland, spanking (physical punishment) is legal if it's considered "reasonable punishment".

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Sotiris Rex's avatar

Love who passive-voice "considered reasonable punishment” is always subject to arbitrary interpretation. We are a disgusting uncivilised species. We don't deserve better.

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Ben_H's avatar

Update (UK law):

It was banned in Scotland in 2020 and later, in 2022, banned in Wales too, still legal in England and Northern Ireland, with some conditions.

It is illegal for teachers, nursery workers and child care workers to smack another person's child.

If a person is employed privately by a parent, such as a babysitter or nanny, the parent may give permission for that person to smack their child as long as it is reasonable and does not amount to an offence.

What is reasonable punishment?

https://www.wilsonbrowne.co.uk/news/personal/is-it-illegal-to-smack-your-child-in-the-uk/

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Gene Bray's avatar

Well said

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Sotiris Rex's avatar

Thank you. I'm glad we agree.

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