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Humble Pilgrim's avatar

I want you to know I relate more than you could ever know. I just wish we were friends and could talk about these things. Wish I had a friend like you

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Sotiris Rex's avatar

Thank you. This is why we are here. In many ways, it's easier to connect on a deeper level online than in real life. You can talk to me about these things. You can write about these things.

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Humble Pilgrim's avatar

My life shattered in a million pieces last year, death of the former self like you described. I’m just trying to scrape by in underemployment after losing everything and everyone in my former life. I try to pick up a pen and nothing happens so I just read the Bible and write out verses and my short reflections on them. I go to mass every day. I’ve met some good people who help me out here and there and pick me up to go places so I don’t have to ride my bike. I can write about these things and have done it before but now I’m just on survival mode. When I eventually get through this I’ll be able to look back on this time and say that was the time I turned it all around. But for now every single day is a different layer of hell. I’ll write again one day

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Sotiris Rex's avatar

That’s an inspiring story. Looking forward to your writing.

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Burnt Eliot's avatar

I am quite interested in this topic, and so I look forward to what you post.

Some have said that the greatest ethic is to reduce suffering and misery. Notice, for example, that Buddhism is focused almost entirely on that ethic, and that the means is almost entirely development of self-awareness. (Lots of different ways to say that, of course.)

What do you mean by 'True Self'? In a way, it almost seems like you mean only a 'good' false self as opposed to a 'self-deprecating' false self.

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Thoughts I have had:

Self: True self vs. False self. True self is direct self-knowledge of being; it is self-awareness without any word or representation. The idea of false self is always expressed indirectly in statements, ideas, or inclinations, usually of the form, “I am this” or “I am that.” False self is truly other than self.

Other: Not true self. Other than self. False self. Illusion.

The self cannot be found anywhere in any world. And yet, here it is. --a common Buddhist maxim.

Self and Other [6] at https://burnteliot.substack.com/p/on-reality-and-being

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Letgoist's avatar

Humble Pilgram, you are on the right path.

"Ego is an illusion"

"If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete." Buddha

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Sotiris Rex's avatar

This comment is an excellent addition to my article. It provides me with valuable context and helps me structure my thoughts for the next ones in the false self series. Thanks you. Saving your article to read later.

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The Practical Man's avatar

👏👏👏

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Angela Morris's avatar

It's never too late if you are breathing. Losing those people, roles, identities are losing the illusion, the performance....thus freeing an invisible weight.

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Verity Love's avatar

Your article came close to representing the childhood I experienced. I was told 'not to feel', not to dream, not to think. Abuse didn't help either. Many years later after extensive energy clearing, my true self showed up--I'm a sensitive, an empath and aware of what happened and what's happening on our planet. Thanks for the article.

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Sotiris Rex's avatar

Thank you. I'm glad this article resonated with you. I hope you have found peace now that you've reconnected with your true self.

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Verity Love's avatar

I've been at peace for many years now due to the extensive energy healing I mentioned. We can all heal from trauma, I just went to extremes with MemGram Processing, which was rough at times, but I want to do it again.

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Sotiris Rex's avatar

Could you tell me more about that, please?

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Verity Love's avatar

MemGram Processing is a computer program that is psychological, physical and emotional. Each session has to be written, not typed, since the brain reacts different to the written word. Each level begins with the age of your latest trauma and gives you 3 words, in my case 4, which you match the words with a dictionary to describe the trauma as close as you can, from the past, present and future.

There's a processor you work with who helps you decipher and release the trauma.

Basically, MemGram Processing is to find out what it feels like to be who you are not. Learn more at my3words.com or biri.org.

Some of the sessions are physically or mentally emotional, but it worked for me.

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Sotiris Rex's avatar

Thank you. I'll check this out.

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Verity Love's avatar

I felt you would.

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